WHEN DEATH SPEAKS by STEPHEN L. GARRETT

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WHEN DEATH SPEAKS:

Listen, Learn, and Love

 

By Stephen Lloyd Garrett

Death has been pushed out of life and into a dark and lonely "morgue." North American’s generally approach the topic of death with fear and denial in hand. When Death Speaks is all about changing the conversation to one of openness and inspiration.

When Death Speaks approaches death with compassion, love and frankness, talking openly about death, planning for the inevitable, and supporting family and friends with tools and skills to begin a new type of conversation.

The tools, information, and real-life stories are all designed to offer a different perspective in dealing with death and loss. The practices offered are designed to use "smaller deaths" as preparation for the death of our body.

When Death Speaks is all about bringing death back to life.

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Amazon Reviews 

 

5 Stars - Chandira - August 7, 2014

I love this book. It's very insightful, thoughtful, sensitively written, and the author is clearly a man of much kindness, wisdom and compassion.

It's very comprehensive for a book that's not a huge tome, it covers a lot of ground, and is well thought out, covering topics like how to deal with the deceased's online life, too, not just the obvious things.
It also has some personal accounts that really moved me. I hope it inspires you, and makes the topic of death seem less daunting.”

5 Stars and Love - S. Sayler - December 12, 2013

The author shares a refreshing and unique combination … A Generous and Lovely Resource to Help In Understanding Death: Losing 2 friends in one week in early September, I wanted to know more about death and what it might mean. I found a lovely resource in When Death Speaks: Listen, Learn, and Love. The author shares a refreshing and unique combination of his own relationship(s) with death and the stories of others and what they found worked for them. The book isn't just stories though, it shares a balanced blend of how different spiritual beliefs view death, all unified skillfully with a nice dose of pragmatism which Mr. Garrett aligns with different types of death. Thank you, Mr. Garrett, for sharing a well-rounded view on a topic most of us really don't spend much time thinking about until needed.” Sharon Sayler, MBA, CEC, ACC

5 Stars - Robert A. Rose - September 2, 2013

EMBRACING DEATH? I know the author isn't trying to convince you that you need to love the idea of death. His goal is to give you information, change your mindsets about death so that it is treated with the same love and respect birth is. We welcome a new baby because of its possibilities, its opportunities to become something, someone unique.

Stephen's experiences with death, especially his grandfather's, when he was twelve, made him wonder why people couldn't answer his questions and later why most people either denied the reality of death or just avoided discussing it.

As an adult he traveled the world and was surprised at how some cultures not only treated death as a natural extension of the cycle of life, but they celebrated the person's death as an adventure into new realms. He compared how North Americans generally were at a total loss how to react, to feel, to mourn, to grieve, and how those around them were made uncomfortable.

In our interview we discussed how most people either say things like – ‘He's in a better place now.’ - "She was ready to go and now she's happy.’

Or, they mumble something barely audible because they're afraid they'll offend the grieving one. Stephen states that you can't go wrong by reaching out to touch, hold a hand, or give a comforting wordless hug. It shows you care and opens the door for the other to respond in a way that fits her mode of grieving.

I took twenty years to effectively deal with my dad's death. He died in my arms when I was nineteen, he was forty-three. I was in denial because we believed in reincarnation so I didn't see it as any type of ending. When I realized he was DEAD, I got angry at God, at him, at any authority figure and it made me challenge everything I had believed in and challenge whatever I thought was wrong in any organization. Had I been taught from Stephen's book to have a different attitude I would have grieved very differently and not as long. I also would not have been so angry for such a long time.

Stephen's search for meaning in death led him to volunteer to help the sick and dying. He later worked in hospices and now is a cremationist. He came up with some basic rules of dealing with people who are dying, their death, and those left behind. In his words from his book... Awareness is all about being attentive and alert, paying full attention to each other. Listen to what the other is saying and also ‘listen’ with your eyes and your intuition. Be present and listen without judgment or criticism.

Respect is a matter of noticing that the one you are speaking with is unique, with her own universe of understanding, opinion, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings. She is not you and does not experience the world the way you do. Respecting her uniqueness goes a long way increasing a healthy environment for deeper communication. Constantly choosing to communicate is powerful. Making a conscious choice to communicate with her sets a strong intention and enables real conversations.

Openness is bringing a fresh and curious mind to the exchange, being willing to see her and what you share as new and interesting. The attitude of openness is felt and creates space for her to be herself. the state of being closed, shuts down the free flow of conversation and she is less willing to speak the truth. (These are useful to use in ANY relationship!)

The above is a taste of what you'll find in his book and in our radio interview. We discussed the differences in grieving, the problems of denial, anger, things to do to prepare the dying person and to prepare your family for his death. How our educational system (and family) needs to rethink death and dying. Finally, what about unrealistic fears about the pain of death and what about physician assisted death for those who are emotionally ready?

Stephen's book is a vast reservoir of resources to help you cope with every stage of dying and death so that your fears of death will be changed, and you will be able to deal with it with a new perspective.”

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About Stephen Lloyd Garrett

Stephen Garrett is committed to changing the way most North Americans approach dying and death. To achieve his heart-centered mission, Stephen works with individuals, families, medical professional organizations, and communities in creating a different relationship with death—one based on acceptance, openness, and inspiration… as opposed to fear and denial.

Steven Garrett’s extensive career includes times as: an investment banker, a social worker, an executive director for non-profit organizations, a workshop facilitator, and personal transformation coach.

In 2010, while on vacation in Bali, Stephen witnessed the cremation of a member of the country’s royal family. It was joyful, celebratory and public—a far cry from the solitude of the crematorium where Stephen once worked, and the somberness of the hospices where he has volunteered and served as a coordinator. Inspired, Steven decided to help others gain the financial, mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual skills needed to deal with dying, death and grief in a prepared and positive way.

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Connect with Stephen Lloyd Garrett

E-Mail: stephen@embraceyourdeath.com

Website: http://stephengarrett.ca/

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Stephen lives in Maple Ridge, British Columbia, Canada

 

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WHEN DEATH SPEAKS:

Listen, Learn, and Love

 By Stephen Lloyd Garrett

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Available on Amazon.ca & Amazon.com

Formats: Softcover - Hardcover - Kindle


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